6 Ways Pets Support Mental Health
By Katie Bongiorno, LMFT
February 25, 2022
As a therapist who brings her dog to work (and talks about him constantly), I’ve had clients ask me about the mental health benefits of owning a pet. Others have specifically wondered about the validity of emotional support animals* and my perspective on it. So, if the title of the blog didn’t give it away, let me say that I am highly in support of owning a pet (ethically and responsibly). I encourage anyone who struggles with their mental health who may be considering a pet to speak with a therapist to learn more about how it may benefit you!
Here are 6 ways in which owning a pet can benefit your mental health:
Reduced stress, depression & anxiety
Sure, taking care of a pet can absolutely contribute to stress; you have to alter your life to care for them and account for their needs (see point 2) AND- they offer so much more that can outweigh these things. Playing with a pet elevates dopamine and serotonin - hormones that elevate/stabilize mood, elicit satisfaction, and make you feel good. Touching your pet can offer grounding and sensory stimulation which contributes to stress relief and reduction of anxiety. Having to take care of your pet’s needs can benefit those with depression to engage with life and serve as a reminder to care for themselves by caring for another. Brushing down a horse can offer a moment of stillness and quiet intimacy which can be respite for an anxious or overwhelmed mind. For kids (& adults), pets can help with separation anxiety, emotional regulation, companionship, building empathy, and learning about responsibility.
Encourages responsibility & accountability
Speaking of responsibility, owning a pet means adding structure to your life! Pets require us to commit to them to meet all of their needs from food to medical care to exercise. Both pets and humans thrive with some type of routine so if you happen to struggle with maintaining one, a pet can help hold you accountable. Kids can learn what it means to be responsible by helping to care for the family pet - whether that means cleaning the cage every week or playing fetch with the puppy after school. For those with ADHD, the responsibility of caring for a pet can help to keep track of time and stick to a basic routine. For example, it is a cue to remember to eat when you know you have to feed your pet.
Sense of togetherness & less loneliness
Pets offer companionship and can help you feel part of a social group or… a pack. When you feel alone, ignored, or dismissed by the humans in your life - your loving pet will be there for you to help keep you company. Many older adults benefit from the companionship of a pet. Living by yourself can feel less isolating when you have a furry companion waiting for you when you come home. Your pet can help ease social anxiety and encourage you to meet new people! I can’t express how often I am stopped while walking my dog by someone who is excited to greet him. I’ve actually made quite a few connections based off of these interactions!
Unconditional positive regard & judgement free support
When you look into the eyes of an animal, there is no judgement looking back. Your pet lives to love you and does not care whether you sit alone at lunch, messed up your presentation, or got into a fight with your partner. They show up for you, are happy to see you, accept you and aren’t afraid to love you. In fact, they love you even when YOU don’t love you. Pets make excellent listeners and offer a safe, supportive presence in which to open up. My dog has been there for me as I’ve cried, vented, and talked about my fears. Your pet is steady, safe, and grounding. They aren’t going to tell anyone what you’ve said and they - dogs especially - want you to feel happy. So open yourself up: hug them, pet them, tell them what you can’t but need to say.
Offers sense of purpose & alternative perspective on life
For those who are struggling to find meaning, a pet can offer a sense of purpose. This can be true for anyone at any point in their life. It is incredibly rewarding to train your pet - they love the engagement (and treats) AND through training, you can feel accomplished and proud. I have coached child clients in my office learn how to have my dog respond to a command - their delight and pride is a win for their self-esteem. Tending to your pet offers the chance to care for someone, which provides purpose. This can be wonderful for older adults who have lost loved ones or may live alone.
Loving and caring for a pet helps you to look at life differently; sometimes figuratively sometimes literally. When I’m looking for my dog’s lost ball, I have to get down on his level and look behind, around and underneath obstacles - in other words, I have to think creatively. When you’re having a tough day, taking a break to connect with your pet can help you to not only regulate your emotions but also to shift your mindset. Life can be simplified for even a few moments when you are focusing on loving your pet.
Chance to be playful, get outdoors, and move your body!
Finally, owning a pet means that you have a built in buddy! Whether it’s a rabbit, lizard, cat, or dog - you’ve got a friend in them. If the concept of play is not an active part of your life, owning a pet offers an opportunity to change that. Watching a kitten chase their toy is, simply put- fun! You may find yourself smiling, feeling playful, and possibly even laughing (which has been shown to reduce stress hormones and elevate overall mood). Throwing a ball or taking your dog for a walk is a great excuse to get some fresh air and move your body in a fun and enjoyable way. It’s great for them (socially, behaviorally, physically, etc). and great for you (mentally, emotionally, physically, etc.) and that’s what I call a win-win!
So, it’s evident that pets can boost your mental health. I hope you consider it if owning a pet is right for you. If you aren’t ready to take that step (but want to play with an animal) check out your local animal shelter, volunteer with a rescue, borrow a friend’s pet, or be bold and ask to pet that adorable puppy next time you are out!
*Emotional support animals are different from service animals. Service animals are highly trained animals that support individuals with disabilities to perform very specific tasks. Emotional support animals provide emotional support through companionship and by helping to ease symptoms of certain phobias, depression, and anxiety.